Girlfriend Boyfriend Controversy: Truth Through the Eyes of Guru, Saadhu Shastra!

Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship has come under scrutiny after strong-worded chastisement by several spiritual stalwarts in India. The whole thing began after Premanandji Maharaj and Anirudhacharya rebuked the live-in culture, destroying the marriage institution in India.

Marriages are made in heaven, a common maxim or myth, readily accepted by the masses. What about the Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship then? Where is it made, then? Spiritual leaders have deemed it unethical, or adharmik, a relationship that destroys the sanctity of marriage. Premanandji Maharaj from Vrindavan and Anirudhacharya have strictly spoken against the Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship. Their statements have created havoc in society, where people have spoken in support and against this relationship.

The truth, however, is not being spoken by anyone lobbying in the pro and against camps.

Let's decode the what, when, why, where, and how of this relationship through the eyes of Guru, Saadhu, and Shastra, and unveil the controversy.

Girlfriend Boyfriend Relationship (Shashtra View): Does it Exist in Vedic Bharat?

The Vedas don't contain any direct texts on the Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship in society. There is no emphasis on informal or purely romantic relationships in the Vedic Scriptures. There is, however, special importance placed on love and relationships primarily within the context of marriage and spiritual union. The closest relationship similar to Girlfriend Boyfriend sanctioned in Sanatan Vedic Bharat is Gandharva Vivah.

There are eight types of marriages mentioned in the Vedic scriptures. Manusmriti (3.32–3.34) describes eight types of marriage.

Brahma, Daiva, Ārṣa, Prajāpatya, Asura, Gāndharva, Rākṣasa, Paiśāca

gāndharvo'yaṃ tu vijñeyo yo'rṣirāgasamudbhavaḥ | anyonyasya kriyārtho'yaṃ kanyākāmātmanaḥ priyāḥ || That marriage which springs from mutual love between a maiden and her lover, and which is entered into by their own desire, is known as Gandharva

In the Kāmaśāstra Tradition (Kāmasūtra), Sage Vātsyāyana recognizes Gandharva Marriage as the union of lovers, sanctified by passion itself. He places it high amongst the 8 types of marriage, as it involves love and consent.

Does it mean that the Vedas accept the Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship?

Absolutely Not! It accepts marriage based on mutual attraction, which is similar to the Girlfriend Boyfriend prevalent in society today.

In the Mahābhārata (Adi Parva, Section 73), Gandharva marriage is praised as the union of Shakuntalā and Duṣyanta (parents of Bharata).

Shakuntala–Dushyanta marriage was Gandharva vivāha (mutual consent without witnesses). Later, when questioned, the legitimacy of the son was debated, but ultimately accepted.

The perversion found in society today, however, is the lowest level of consciousness, which is directly equal to animalistic living.

Girlfriend Boyfriend Relationship (Saadhu View): Direct Connection to Animal Consciousness Living?

Let's decode the Girlfriend Boyfriend Relationship by comparing it to the nearly most equal relationship found in nature, i.e., animals.

Aspect	Animals	Modern Gf–Bf Relationship	Dharmic View (Shastras)	Śāstric References
Mating Frequency	Seasonal, only for reproduction.	Year-round, unrestricted sex for pleasure.	Sex for dharma, children & love only after marriage.	Bhagavad Gītā 16.8–9 – Lusty people indulge without limit.
Partner Count	Multiple partners by instinct.	Avg. India: 3–5 (metros), <2 (rural). Western nations 10+. Leads to higher divorce rates (40–60% West, <1% India).	Gandharva & other vivāhas: only one lifelong dharmic partner.	Manusmṛti 3.32 – Gandharva Vivāha (mutual love marriage).
After Mating	Male leaves female (e.g. lions, dogs).	One-night stands, accidental pregnancies → abandonment.	Marriage binds duty of husband toward wife.	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 5.5.8 – Adultery = like incest with mother/sister/daughter.
Abandonment & Abortions	No concept of abortion.	Abortions common, result of casual sex; considered “choice.”	Abortion = brahma-hatyā (supreme sin).	Atharva Veda 6.113.2 – “Do not destroy the fetus.” Manusmṛti 11.54 – Fetus killing = Guru-killing sin.
Incest	Found in lions, dogs, monkeys → not sinful.	Human incest cases (cousins, relatives).	Humans incur mahāpātaka (greatest sin).	Mahābhārata, Anuśāsana Parva 146.17 – Incest/adultery = leads to hell.
Consequences	No karma, no sin.	Divorce, abortions, emotional instability, rise of “hookup culture.”	Naraka (hell), loss of family dharma, social decay.	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 3.12, 9.19 – illicit sex = hell. Garuda Purāṇa – adultery/abortion punishments.
Human vs Animal Nature	Act instinctively.	Humans acting worse than animals by willful indulgence.	True human duty = Dharma, not instinct.	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 7.9.45 – “Humans without dharma = two-legged animals.”

It is evident from the table that humans are worse than animals in this regard. This relationship is not better than those of ancient times. The myth of modernity in relationships is allowing rampant sin and degradation of consciousness or soul.

Saadhus or pious men thus abhor this relationship as it is one of the four pillars of sinful life.

For the novice sinful life in contemporary times consists of 4 parts:

1. Meat Eating as it increases violence

2. Gambling, as it increases greed

3. Intoxication, as it increases ignorance

4. Illicit Sex, as it increases bodily identification

Girlfriend Boyfriend Relationship, thus is the foundation of illicit sex life, the royal pathway to hell.

Girlfriend Boyfriend Relationship (Guru View): Hotbed of Sinful Life Collapsing Marriages?

Saints or Gurus in Bharat today are not mincing words, openly blaming the Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship for destroying the fabric of marriage in India today. These include:

Premanandji Maharaj from Vrindavan

Premanandji has stressed the importance of purity in relationships. He explains that whether it's a boy or a girl, whoever engages in multiple relationships before marriage will find difficulty in staying loyal to a single partner. It is similar to a person being habituated to eating food in hotels, finding difficulty in eating home-cooked food.

He said that 96% girls today have engaged in immoral relationships and only a few rare girls commit to a person till married.

This led to a severe backlash from the fake feminists or pseudo women's empowerment loyalists. The end result, however, was moral policing from the general populace.

Anirudhhacharya ji

Annirudhacharya ji maharaj minced no words in stating that girls sleep with 17 guys before marriage and expect that their marriage will be smooth. He further said no woman can accept her husband being in a relationship with another woman, then how come women present themselves to another male before marriage?

His statement coincided with Premanandji Maharaj and even got derogatory remarks from celebrity Khushubu Patani.

Amog Lila Das ji

His grace Amog Lila Das ji found the resolution amongst this raging controversy by explaining the purpose of chastisement by the above-mentioned saints.

He explained that the populace should focus on the intention of these two exalted personalities instead of being hurt by the correctness of the words being used by them.

In the past, too, Amog Lila Das ji had warned against the unnatural relationship of the Girlfriend Boyfriend in society.

Clearly, the saints don't support the Girlfriend Boyfriend relationship as it is the path to a sinful life ending in divorce, physical and mental hurt, and in many cases, even death.

Girlfriend Boyfriend Relationship: Sanatan Gyan Perspective

Vedic Shastras rate illicit relationships the highest and fastest way to misery. It appears as nectar in the beginning, but is poison in disguise. It breaks the foundation of a stable life between the opposite sexes in society.

Worst of all, it is the enemy of self-realization as it emboldens the bodily conception of life.

Man and Woman are compared to butter and fire. An intelligent man doesn't even stay with his own mother or daughter alone for a long time. He deals with women publicly for matters of work, and nothing more.

Sanskrit Śloka	English Meaning	Reference	Takeaway for GF–BF Relationships
स्त्री अग्निर्नृणां स्रज्यं पयःकुम्भः पुमान् स्मृतः। तस्मान्नार्यः समीपं वै न यातु चिरमात्मवान्॥	“A woman is compared to fire, and a man to a pot of butter. Therefore, a self-controlled man should not stay near a woman for long.”	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 9.19.17	Free-mixing between unmarried boys & girls leads to downfall, as lust burns like fire.
मातृस्वसारदुहित्रो वा न विविक्तासनो भजेत् । बलवानिन्द्रियग्रामो विद्वांसमपि कर्षति ॥	“One should not sit in seclusion even with mother, sister, or daughter. The senses are so strong that they can overcome even the learned.”	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 9.19.17b / 7.12.9	Private meetings between men & women (like modern dating) invite temptation → ruin.
मातृस्वसारदुहित्रोऽन्यस्त्रीगमनं मत्सरीणाम्। निषिद्धं मन्येऽखिललोकपावनं स्मरतां सतां वै॥	“To associate with another man’s wife is as abominable as with one’s own mother, sister, or daughter. Such acts are strictly forbidden.”	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 5.5.8	Adultery & casual affairs = same severity as incest.
मातृदुहितृवध्वोः सह गमनं महापातकं स्मृतम्। तुल्यं परदाराभिगमः सर्वेषु शास्त्रेषु कथ्यते॥	“Intercourse with one’s mother, daughter, or daughter-in-law is the greatest sin. Union with another’s wife is declared equally sinful.”	Manusmṛti 11.172–173	Premarital & extramarital sex is classed with mahāpātaka (greatest sin).
मातृगमनं तथा स्वस्रा दुहितुः परदारगः। सर्वं तुल्यं महाराज नरकायैव कल्पते॥	“Union with one’s mother, sister, daughter, or another’s wife are all equal and lead to hell.”	Mahābhārata, Anuśāsana Parva 146.17	Illicit sex → direct path to naraka (hell).
मा गर्भं हन्याद् योषिति।	“Do not destroy the fetus in the womb, O woman.”	Atharva Veda 6.113.2	Abortions from casual relationships = brahma-hatyā (supreme sin).
काममाश्रित्य दुष्पूरं दम्भमानमदान्विताः। मोहाद्गृहित्वासद्ग्राहान्प्रवर्तन्तेऽशुचिव्रताः॥	“Clinging to insatiable lust, pride and arrogance, deluded, they engage in impure acts.”	Bhagavad Gītā 16.8–9	Lust-driven GF–BF lifestyle = demonic mentality, binding one to samsāra.
पुनः पुनश्चर्यवितचर्यणानां गृहेषु सुखं यत्। नराणां पश्यन्नपि नायं मोहिता:॥	“Men repeatedly engage in sex, eating, and sleeping like animals, but remain deluded, thinking it is happiness.”	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 7.5.30	Modern hookup culture = animalistic living, not human dharma.
द्विपदः पशवः प्रायो ये चात्मन्यन्यतं गताः।	“Humans who live only for eating, sleeping, sex, and defense without dharma are nothing more than two-legged animals.”	Śrīmad Bhāgavatam 7.9.45	Girlfriend–Boyfriend culture reduces humans to animal level.

Hope this opens your eyes against the Girlfriend Boyfriend pollution that is destroying the sanctity of marriages in India, that is Bharat today.

Arise and Speak Against this impious, sinful demon that is eating away the youth in these hyper-sensitive modern times.